I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the concept that has been becoming increasingly popular; that as parents we are not here to entertain our children.

While I’m all for independent play, I’ve been working on reframing this for myself. I have personally embraced the role of authentically playing with my child. 

Play is the work of the child. It is through play that children learn to think, to problem solve, to cooperate, and to express themselves. Through play, children learn to regulate their emotions and to develop relationships with others. Playing with our children also allows us to engage in meaningful conversations with them. 

It is tempting to provide our children with the latest toys, classes, museum passes, and gadgets, but it is more important to provide our children with our time and attention. We can do this through imaginary play with our children, talking with them, and listening to them.

Let us not be tempted to entertain our children, but rather let us take the time to play with them. Let us give our children the gift of our presence and enjoy their innate playfulness – we don’t get these moments back – maybe it will keep us young as well. 

1. Danish Parenting: A Study on the Benefits of Including Children in Adult Activities (https://danishparenting.com/benefits-including-children-adult-activities/): This study examines how including children in adult activities can help to foster a sense of belonging, encourage independence, and teach valuable life skills. It also highlights the importance of setting boundaries and providing guidance to ensure that children are able to participate in a safe and meaningful way.

2. Hunt Gather Parent: Why We Shouldn’t Have Child-Centered Activities (https://huntgatherparent.com/why-we-shouldnt-have-child-centered-activities/): This article looks at why it is important to avoid having activities that are solely focused on children. It argues that such activities can lead to a lack of socialization, a lack of meaningful learning opportunities, and an over-emphasis on entertainment. It also suggests that adults should take the lead in activities, allowing children to be involved in meaningful ways.